What Ethical Non-Monogamy Really Means (And What It Doesn’t)

Ethical non-monogamy (ENM) is a term that’s getting a lot of attention lately, but there’s still plenty of confusion about what it actually is. For some, it’s polyamory. For others, it’s swinging. For others still, it’s simply being open to more than one relationship dynamic with full honesty and consent.

Here’s what ENM is: a conscious agreement between partners to structure their relationships in a way that works for them. It’s rooted in trust, communication, and consent. Everyone involved knows what’s happening and has a voice in the agreements.

Here’s what it isn’t: cheating, lying, or doing whatever you want without regard for your partner. That’s not ethical, and it’s not consensual.

Even if ENM isn’t something you want for yourself, there’s a lot we can learn from it. The emphasis on radical honesty, open communication, and self-awareness are skills that benefit every relationship; monogamous or not.

The takeaway

ENM isn’t about having more partners, it’s about having more conversations. And that’s something every couple could use more of.

This is a deep topic with many layers and rabbit holes to explore, and this post is simply a conversation starter. If you’re curious about ENM or want support navigating what that might look like for you, I’m here to help. Reach out, and we can explore what feels aligned and authentic for your relationship.